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This is what I wish I had known 10 years ago. 

Covenant.

God is in the business of covenant making with His people…

In the Old Testament God made a covenant (a promise) with His people…to be with them, to help them, to multiply them, to protect them…

God made a covenant with Noah promising to never again flood the earth…He did so with Abraham promising to make His descendents like the stars in the Heavens…He did so with David promising to make his throne and kingdom last forever…

Many times when a covenant was made there was blood involved…a sacrifice…

And we see this so beautifully when the New Covenant was made between God and man, through His son Jesus.  There, at the cross,  his precious blood was shed.  It was shed so as to serve as the ultimate sacrifice for us.  This covenant is the greatest…holiest…most sacred covenant of all because it brings us to God….it brings us to life….

So, you say, what in the world does all of this have to do with sex?

When two people get married, they are entering into a marriage covenant. It is something so sacred and holy.  It is truly something from God’s very hand.  He designed it so perfectly…and when this covenant/promise is consummated and done on his terms it represents something so much more than just sex…

It is two becoming one, it is life-giving and life-bringing, it is sacrificial at times, and the first time there might be blood…all of this points back to  Jesus and the church.  Sex is to be so revered and honored and these days, from any family tv show to the ridiculous Sex in the City…sex is casual, with lots of people…and it’s sad.

I wish when I was younger I knew what I know now, simply because I would understand how magical and sacred God meant it to be…and how I am worth more than I thought I was…I am a daughter of the One and Only and I should have had the confidence and self-worth to wait…I wish that I had saved those kisses for Daniel…and kept myself pure like a spotless Bride on her wedding day. And when we don’t wait…we miss out…we lose parts of ourselves…we have to deal with ugly crap…and we live…I live to regret it.  Thank God for His forgiveness and restoration!!!

I hope that made some sense!!! I so want for young girls to grasp that! I pray someone did!!!

I will post the last one..Part 3…on Thursday. God Bless!!!

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I have long put off discussing this on my blog for various reasons…apathy, fear, not knowing if what I say will make any sense whatsoever…

But, I keep realizing what an enormous issue it is for young women to wait until marriage for sex…and so…deep breath…here I go…

You know, growing up in and around church you hear so much of the DONT’S…don’t drink, don’t do drugs, don’t have sex, don’t listen to this music, don’t hang out with this crowd…goodness knows why we DO all of those things…it’s the big red button that you are told not to push again and again…so what do you do…

You push it!  We are sons and daughters of Adam and Eve…we will do the thing!!!!

If parents and church leaders are not careful to explain the WHY’s behind the dont’s, quit the legalism, and try in our conversations to paint a most beautiful picture of sex between a husband and a wife…then our children are going to be in bad bad shape…

So…regarding the issue of sex before marriage…the answer to “why can’t I have sex until marriage?” CANNOT be…

“Because it is wrong”

“Because you might get pregnant”

“Because you might get an STD”

“Because the Bible says so”

or even..similarly..

“Because GOD says so”…that alone sadly wont do it…

God is not some tyrannical judge up in Heaven stating the things we ought not do because he said so…

Maris has gotten to the stage of wanting to know why for EVERYTHING…at first it made me mad…I thought she was being disrespectful when she kept asking why…and I found myself saying… “because I said so’…..and it hit me that that was wrong of me…Maris needs to know why I tell her no…and its ultimately because I love her and I want what is best for her….

God is the same way…He is so good and He knows so much better than we do…We are idiots…We have no clue…And He has more than a clue…He’s got it all baby!

And there is a grand, marvelous, beautiful, exquisite reason He lovingly tells us to wait…and that is what I want to share with you…

I will post Part 2 on Why Wait on Tuesday…

Until then…have a blessed start to your week!!! Love to You!

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Such a Girl

She is seriously girly…

Me and Mom say all the time…”She is such a girl!!!!! Where does she get this stuff from??”  When deep down we love it…we absolutely eat it up…the fact that she is so unabashadly…wholeheartedly…irrevocably GIRL

It is the pink, the dolls, the tea parties, the ballerinas, the princesses…and more wonderful than all of that yumminess is the sweetness she shows, the way she wants to take care of her dolls and her brother, the way she cares about those around her, her fiery little spirit…(and trust me there is an opposite side to the sweetness as well)

 It is so beautiful…

She is so beautiful…

Sigh…

Takes my breath away…

I hope your week is off to a lovely start!! Love to You!!

(those pics are for you my sweet Momma…I love you)

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A Really, Really Great Book

A friend of mine named Brandi told me the other day to get this book…that it was amazing…and yeah, I read it in about 3 days…

Passionate Housewives Desperate for God is truly a life-changing book.  The authors talk about what it really means to be a keeper at home and they dispel all of the myths and stereotypes surrounding the controversial subject…and they do it brilliantly!!…

I remember the early days of being a mom with Maris…and I specifically remember being asked…”So, what do you do?”  And kind of sheepishly I said, “I’m a stay at home mom.”….like it was something to be ashamed of!…like I just stay at home with my daughter….

I also remember being at an art gallery in downtown Fairhope and drooling over these gorgeous paintings and reading the little biography of this prestigious and talented artist who travels all over the world with his art…and made lots of money doing it…

I got in the car and cried the whole way home.  I told God that I could do that!!!!…I could paint like that and travel and make money for our family…and I asked him to help me with my art and creativity…to make it great…(to make me great,really)…I thought that my talents were too good to just waste away while I stayed home with my girl…

Thank God that He knows better than we do…I would be miserable if that was my life right now…

I am learning so much about what it means to be a mom and a wife…about this Holy calling…this honor it is to be entrusted with these little lives…

I sit here typing completely exhausted over the kind of non-stop day I’ve had…this parenting thing is HARD…this submissive wife thing is HARD…this housemom to five boys thing is HARD

But, praise be to God, because he is working through this wretch of a woman and making me into something beautiful in the midst of the hard stuff…and He is helping me see that there isn’t a greater calling on earth than to be a mother who serves her family…and her Lord.

Have a blessed week!!! Much Love!!…Go get that book!!!

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This Man…

Before Maris and Davis, came this man

And this man is exactly what I needed and wanted…what I need and what I want…

(those are some fine legs)

You know, sometimes I find it annoying when people brag about their marriage like it’s some fairy tale, because our marriage is certainly not a fairy tale….

We fight, (mostly my fault…I am the most selfish person on the planet), we say and do things that hurt the other,  he makes mistakes,  I go buy three shirts at the mall and hide it from him because I don’t want him to get mad that I am spending money again on clothes…

And we are so enormously different….he is practical, calm, steadfast, strong, cool, patient, easygoing, likes talking to people for long amounts of time…and I am dramatic, moody, serious, introverted, artistic, spirited…

And we are such the same sometimes…we are so messy…and we procrastinate…a lot…and we love God so much…we dont get caught up so much in unimportant things…and we truly love each other…

And while we certainly don’t have it together…we are plowing through…growing closer and closer…and there isn’t a better father to these little babies…and there isn’t a better man for this woman…

Than this man.

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So, this little gem sits right in the heart of the bustling city of Elberta.  A drive for some, but for us, it is about 6.5 minutes away…:)

Trust me…it is well worth the drive…

Oh, and by the way, on our way to this, our most beloved little lunch spot, there is always the laughs and astonishment we enjoy passing by this house/yard…

Yes, what you see is correct, it is a camel.  You thought camels only lived in Egypt…well so did I…apparently they live in the front yard of this Elberta resident as well…

Anyways,  I know there are many country/down-home cooking restaurants around our area…but the Roadkill Cafe is one of the best…Their cornbread is by far the best I’ve ever had in my life, and I keep imagining in my head what would happen if I asked the large man at the register (the owner who is probably the biggest Alabama fan in the world) for the recipe…what he would say…

Probably something like…”What are you, an Auburn fan????!!! Heck no, you cant have my recipe!!!! Get out of here!!!!”…

Maybe not…

 The place looks like it should be in the heart of Tuscaloosa…

This is the artwork out front…Daniel and I cant really figure out the marketing strategy behind the name or the lovely storefront art…we dont understand it……

But we do understand this…

Pumpkin understands it too…

If, you have never been there…do yourself a favor and go experience the best country cooking  around…just dont wear any Auburn attire…:)…

Have a delicious weekend!!!!

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More than words

Do you ever find yourself saying the same kind of prayers over and over?  Sometimes I will catch myself saying the same phrases again and again…and I am not even really meaning what I am saying…

I find myself doing this a lot when I pray with Maris at night…or when I or someone else prays before we eat…its the same stuff I’ve heard and said for forever….

“Dear Lord…thank you for this day…thank you for this food you’ve given us…please help it to… (all together now…) nourish and strengthen our bodies and our bodies for your service…Its in your name we pray…amen.”

Holy crap…what does that even mean!!!?????

And…for me…I pray like that more when its out loud…than just myself to God…

Oh, religion…i hate it…

What if next time I said…

“Father…I am so exhausted and drained and I just want to run away sometimes…please help me and give me strength to do the things you have called me to do without being a bitter woman with a bad attitude….thank you for always providing  food for us…and everything we need…you are so faithful to us…now help me not to eat so much, so i wont feel extremely awful and miserable in an hour….I love you…help me to love you more…amen”

Laughing out loud right now at imagining our boys faces if I prayed that at the dinner table…

Seriously…the latter was much better!!!

More than words is what I need…

Love to you!

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