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He would totally not love that title…But he is cool…and he does smell like Christmas trees…

He walks in the door after working a crazy, grueling day hauling people’s Christmas trees…a lot of manual labor…and he has dirt all over him and leaves plenty all over the floor…

His hands the same…filthy and rugged…

And he’s so cool about it…about working so hard.  He has been at his new job at Fish River Trees for over 2 months and it is no-joke hard work.  And he comes home and I want to jump on him because he smells like Christmas and he looks handsome and worn…

Nothing more attractive than a hard-working man…No one more wonderful than him.

Happy 34th baby!

Yes, we are the Decemberists…

 (p.s. watch for the move…Crown of Laurel Leaves is moving soon to a new site!! Will keep you updated!!)

 

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Happy Wedding

 

Tis the season for weddings…

Me and Daniel went to one two weekends ago…

Weddings used to be an occasion where I would sit and take mental notes on what I would like or not like in my own wedding and dream about that day and that man…

Now it is an occasion where I can listen to the vows again and again and be so sweetly reminded of how sacred and important they are…and marriage is…

When the bride started down the aisle, she looked so incredibly happy…her family looked so happy…the blessing the minister gave them was so powerful and beautiful…The whole congregation seemed just so happy for them…( I’m sorry I used the word happy 3 times…it just fits this wedding)….

The reception was nice…Daniel got to see some old friends and I stood around feeling awkward and insecure because I knew maybe 5 people there…( you know those times where you want to look like you are so with it and have it all together…but like…that makes you look even more dumb…and you don’t really know what to do with your arms and how to stand…yeah…)…there was a band and dancing, although I didn’t see many people dancing…You know there are those weddings you feel comfortable getting out and looking like an idiot while you dance…and some you don’t…

Besides those weird moments…I love weddings…

Not to mention the royal wedding a few months ago…Everything was so dramatic and spectacular…Her dress was so breathtaking…I could not imagine being a guest at that wedding…I’d be freaking out…me and my spectacular hat.. 🙂

And it is a huge reminder of THE wedding….there will be a wedding in Heaven one day…one wear the Church is presented to Christ…and it will be the most spectacular event we could ever fathom…I will not feel awkward and not know what to do with my arms…I won’t feel weird and unsocial because I don’t know many people….There will be such a celebration…flowers so gorgeous…A feast of marvelous food…And I’m sure…lots and lots dancing!!!! Have you thought about that event?? The beauty of that day….?

That will be THE Royal Wedding…THE happiest wedding ever…

I hope your week is off to a Happy start!!!

Much Much Much Love!

 

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He’s Coming Home!

 

I don’t think I’ll ever get used to him being gone for a week to another country, Cuba, without any communication at all…although, I have been reminding myself of my sweet friend Denise whose husband was away in Afghanistan for an entire year. She is amazing. And we serve an amazing God…

He has helped me so much this week…

At times when my heart just aches like it is going to melt or I am going to melt into a puddle of tears…He takes care of me…gives me something to do…provides sweet blessings along the way to encourage me and keep me joyful…

And…at last…the long week is over…and he will be home soon…

And I’m going to kiss him and hug him and kiss him and hug him and hold him and kiss him some more….

Oh, how I love Daniel McCrory.  Thank you God for my perfectly imperfect husband!

I hope your weekend is spectacular!! Love to You!!

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Stormy first few years of marriage! We can laugh about it now…but then it was not funny nor fun…

Sometimes I think it helps to tell something of your own experience…somebody can talk all they want about what is right and true…but when you’ve lived it and you’ve felt the hurt and have the scars you then have the joy of sharing those and how far God has brought you…

So this is part of where we have been…(I have permission from Daniel to share)…

We both had a share of issues while heading full speed ahead toward getting married…we met in July, engaged in August, married in January…:) Hey, we knew!…

Anyways, we needed a great deal of good, sound, in-your-face pre-marital counseling…we didnt get it…we got the surface level/I don’t wanna get too deep into your business kind of stuff…I dont recommend that kind…

So, we were married and off to have the most romantic, breathtakingly memorable honeymoon in Jamaica. It was memorable alright!  The guilt and shame from our past began to surface while in Negril…we had so much beauty around us…we were surrounded by the clearest water you have ever seen…palm trees everywhere…a little tropical bungalow that would make you drool it was so luxurious…and tons of food and pina colodas to make you gain about twenty pounds…It was the most beautiful place either of us had been…but we couldn’t enjoy it…we were dealing with the most ugly crap and it was humbling and the beginning to a year or so of tremendous hardship and growth for us…

You see, sex before marriage does a lot more to a person than the things mentioned in Part 1…it caused so many problems for Daniel and I…it took several years for us to experience freedom and sex the way God meant it to be. I had always heard the first year of marriage is supposed to be so wonderful and romantic…and it was anything but for us…

But God, in His rich mercy, restores… And no matter what you have done, whether you have had sex before marriage… or done inappropriate things with a guy…or had an affair…or dealt with any sexual sin…God makes all things new!!! Even the ugly, broken, cracked, and torn… can be made beautiful, whole, together, mended…

And please hear from someone who has been there…it is not worth the road you will go on…

YOU are worth more…YOU are precious…YOU are beautiful…YOU deserve the best!!! Believe it Baby!! God is a giver of the Best!!!

You are Loved!

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This is what I wish I had known 10 years ago. 

Covenant.

God is in the business of covenant making with His people…

In the Old Testament God made a covenant (a promise) with His people…to be with them, to help them, to multiply them, to protect them…

God made a covenant with Noah promising to never again flood the earth…He did so with Abraham promising to make His descendents like the stars in the Heavens…He did so with David promising to make his throne and kingdom last forever…

Many times when a covenant was made there was blood involved…a sacrifice…

And we see this so beautifully when the New Covenant was made between God and man, through His son Jesus.  There, at the cross,  his precious blood was shed.  It was shed so as to serve as the ultimate sacrifice for us.  This covenant is the greatest…holiest…most sacred covenant of all because it brings us to God….it brings us to life….

So, you say, what in the world does all of this have to do with sex?

When two people get married, they are entering into a marriage covenant. It is something so sacred and holy.  It is truly something from God’s very hand.  He designed it so perfectly…and when this covenant/promise is consummated and done on his terms it represents something so much more than just sex…

It is two becoming one, it is life-giving and life-bringing, it is sacrificial at times, and the first time there might be blood…all of this points back to  Jesus and the church.  Sex is to be so revered and honored and these days, from any family tv show to the ridiculous Sex in the City…sex is casual, with lots of people…and it’s sad.

I wish when I was younger I knew what I know now, simply because I would understand how magical and sacred God meant it to be…and how I am worth more than I thought I was…I am a daughter of the One and Only and I should have had the confidence and self-worth to wait…I wish that I had saved those kisses for Daniel…and kept myself pure like a spotless Bride on her wedding day. And when we don’t wait…we miss out…we lose parts of ourselves…we have to deal with ugly crap…and we live…I live to regret it.  Thank God for His forgiveness and restoration!!!

I hope that made some sense!!! I so want for young girls to grasp that! I pray someone did!!!

I will post the last one..Part 3…on Thursday. God Bless!!!

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I have long put off discussing this on my blog for various reasons…apathy, fear, not knowing if what I say will make any sense whatsoever…

But, I keep realizing what an enormous issue it is for young women to wait until marriage for sex…and so…deep breath…here I go…

You know, growing up in and around church you hear so much of the DONT’S…don’t drink, don’t do drugs, don’t have sex, don’t listen to this music, don’t hang out with this crowd…goodness knows why we DO all of those things…it’s the big red button that you are told not to push again and again…so what do you do…

You push it!  We are sons and daughters of Adam and Eve…we will do the thing!!!!

If parents and church leaders are not careful to explain the WHY’s behind the dont’s, quit the legalism, and try in our conversations to paint a most beautiful picture of sex between a husband and a wife…then our children are going to be in bad bad shape…

So…regarding the issue of sex before marriage…the answer to “why can’t I have sex until marriage?” CANNOT be…

“Because it is wrong”

“Because you might get pregnant”

“Because you might get an STD”

“Because the Bible says so”

or even..similarly..

“Because GOD says so”…that alone sadly wont do it…

God is not some tyrannical judge up in Heaven stating the things we ought not do because he said so…

Maris has gotten to the stage of wanting to know why for EVERYTHING…at first it made me mad…I thought she was being disrespectful when she kept asking why…and I found myself saying… “because I said so’…..and it hit me that that was wrong of me…Maris needs to know why I tell her no…and its ultimately because I love her and I want what is best for her….

God is the same way…He is so good and He knows so much better than we do…We are idiots…We have no clue…And He has more than a clue…He’s got it all baby!

And there is a grand, marvelous, beautiful, exquisite reason He lovingly tells us to wait…and that is what I want to share with you…

I will post Part 2 on Why Wait on Tuesday…

Until then…have a blessed start to your week!!! Love to You!

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This Man…

Before Maris and Davis, came this man

And this man is exactly what I needed and wanted…what I need and what I want…

(those are some fine legs)

You know, sometimes I find it annoying when people brag about their marriage like it’s some fairy tale, because our marriage is certainly not a fairy tale….

We fight, (mostly my fault…I am the most selfish person on the planet), we say and do things that hurt the other,  he makes mistakes,  I go buy three shirts at the mall and hide it from him because I don’t want him to get mad that I am spending money again on clothes…

And we are so enormously different….he is practical, calm, steadfast, strong, cool, patient, easygoing, likes talking to people for long amounts of time…and I am dramatic, moody, serious, introverted, artistic, spirited…

And we are such the same sometimes…we are so messy…and we procrastinate…a lot…and we love God so much…we dont get caught up so much in unimportant things…and we truly love each other…

And while we certainly don’t have it together…we are plowing through…growing closer and closer…and there isn’t a better father to these little babies…and there isn’t a better man for this woman…

Than this man.

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